Healing the Wound
“On the girl's brown legs there were many small white scars. I was thinking, Do those scars cover the whole of you, like the stars and the moons on your dress? I thought that would be pretty too, and I ask you right here please to agree with me that a scar is never ugly. That is what the scar makers want us to think. But you and I, we must make an agreement to defy them. We must see all scars as beauty. Okay? This will be our secret. Because take it from me, a scar does not form on the dying. A scar means, I survived.”
― Chris Cleave, Little Bee
Many things in life can be an act of healing.
This of course will depend on perspective; we have to want to be healed. Healing can come in the form of recognising a bright and beautiful morning with the day all full of birds. Healing can be from the compassion and loyalty of a dear friend. Healing can come with the passage of time. Healing can come with life aligning with you and confirming the path you are on. Healing can come from travel or the turning of a page into a new chapter. Whatever form healing comes in it only ever serves us when we want it to happen.
From doing the work as a Tarot healer/consultant I have learned much about the nature of healing.
Firstly healing is not pink and fluffy and cute; it is full on and hardcore. It rattles the bars of our imprisoned spirit, it demands our attention and is imploring us to be conscious of our transformation. Transformation is the remedy for when we are stuck. We are compelled to grow as we are released from our toxic bubble. When we are conscious we can deal with the fear and anxiety of the change this release will bring. Healing creates the space for us to explore this new found place, being conscious permits us to work with what we have to build and to redefine who we are.
I have also discovered that healing does not happen overnight.
It is a pathway to something that is great within us. Forgiveness can’t happen until we are ready nor can unconditional love or stillness or compassion, they are pathways that have to be walked and fully embraced. Often little avenues of interest appear along the way that add to the picture of wholeness; we are becoming. My Dad would have called it character building. How much that phrase annoyed me as a child but I admit that it is a truth, the journey to wholeness is indeed character building and it is important that we have a hand in the process. I have also observed that as we hold the space for healing others we have healing ourselves. Spirit does indeed work in mysterious ways.
We get the clients we deserve. Very often the person sitting in front of us mirrors back to us the situation that we find ourselves in and as we plug into our store of eternal wisdom the answer is right there and we give to others knowing that it is also that which we seek.
When I worked as a platform medium I would be often absorbed by personal stuff.
My eldest daughter has some big challenges with her mental well-being and I would be concerned about her exploits and dealings with life. My anxiety levels would be through the roof but as I started the service and connected to spirit my problems became miniscule. It never ceases to amaze me that the people I was drawn to in the service reflected my own anxieties. I noticed that the whole theme of the evening had a natural flow. Even though the reading and the music was chosen by others beforehand it was impossible to arrange as correctly as it occurred with the people who would receive messages of love from the podium. If we are prepared to put ourselves on one side our healing for us and others can take place. But if we get in our own way, it is best to focus on the love that has been bestowed mercifully upon us by the Great Spirit, the Real, and be in that love for the salvation of another’s spirit.
I like the opening quote, scars can be a terrible beauty but I have to add that life is more about living than survival.
Like everyone, I have survived many things, several broken hearts, poverty and homelessness, addiction and huge loss and disappointment not to mention serious health issues, cancer, liver dysfunction, diabetes, deep vein thrombosis and a baby born prematurely. Sure I survived all of these things but that isn’t living. As I was going through cancer treatment I realised that there was a new language to be learned from this special club I had found myself in, survivor wasn’t a word used lightly. Survivor implied that one had got through. What lay before those that whose path was to continue their journey here, was life…not to be in existence but to be a co-creator in the next adventure.
Healing the wound has to be more than maintenance, more than covering the gaping gash.
It is not about the victim or rescuer archetypes but is about the warrior and the champion. Healing the wound is self–discovery, an awareness of the shadow aspects of self that come into illumination, it is more than a search for truth.
I drew a card to embody this blog and I received the 3 of Cups.
My first reaction was that it was a strange card to pull on this occasion. As I delved deeper into the heart of this 3 I realised that a wisdom pertinent to the art of healing lay within its centre.
As a 3 it sits in the place of Binah on the Tree of life, Binah means understanding and is the place of fulfillment, representing the creative resolution of opposites. This 3 signifies warmth and unbounded good spirits. A profound understanding of what is valuable and important in life is reflected in this image. The 3 of cups is a joyful celebration of life, an integration of past, present and future. Moreover it is about empathy and relatedness. It indicates the magic of life is at work, there is a sense of continuity and the bearing of fruit. Thankfulness and gratitude are important aspects of this card.
The 3 of cups shows an experience of spirit through love and sharing.
In this 3 we are in harmony with our community, there is a sense of continuity and can mean that a new and exciting relationship to spirit is about to begin as a result opportunity and potential merge to create healthy challenges.
We see a reaching out to others and a natural flow of giving and receiving. I feel it is important that this image is three women as women represent loving and sharing as opposed to aggression and competition. This loving and sharing however is beyond the limitation of gender.
This card could suggest that the path to healing is to be in love with life, to recognise one’s cornucopia of wisdom and natural abundance which is there for us to enjoy and not endure. We are urged to celebrate the magic of life. I have come to understand that it is a truism that the wound begins to heal when we are positive and conscious of our own happiness, we can recover self through love, joy and passion. We can transcend above maintenance and the mediocrity of existence.
Healing and help starts with self. We can’t help others but we can love others.
Here are some immortal words from Bob Dylan:
Life is sad, life is a bust, all you can do is do what you must,
You do what you must do and you do it well,
I’m singing to you, honey baby can’t you tell!
What is your passion, what is your joy? Do what you love. Love well.